So this video started going around my facebook today, with about a dozen of my female friends sharing the link with comments like, and “Everyone needs to see this”, and “All girls should watch this,” and “This made me cry.” And I’m not trying to shame those girls! I…
Ran into this after posting the video. Click through, it is worth the read. I think I originally liked the video because it seemed to focus more on the natural beauty women can have and not the make up version. Anyway the article was worth the read and made me look at the clip in a different way. One of the quotes that stood out for me was this one:
Because the message that we constantly receive is that girls are not valuable without beauty.
Yeah, I think most women battle with this all their life.
[nobody’s going to save you. no one’s going to cut you down, cut the thorns thick around you. no one’s going to storm the castle walls nor kiss awake your birth, climb down your hair, nor mount you onto the white steed. there is no one who will feed the yearning. face it. you will have to do, do it yourself.]
We gotta start teaching our daughters to be somebodies instead of somebody’s.
A woman is often measured by the things she cannot control. She is measured by the way her body curves and doesn’t curve. By where she is flat or straight or round. She is measured by inches and ages and numbers. By all the outside things that don’t ever add up to who she is on the inside. So if a…
I learned to draw everything except glamorous women. No matter how much I tried to make them look sexy, they always ended up looking silly…or like somebody’s mother.
A woman’s worst nightmare? That’s pretty easy. Novelist Margaret Atwood writes that when she asked a male friend why men feel threatened by women, he answered, “They are afraid women will laugh at them.” When she asked a group of women why they feel threatened by men, they said, “We’re afraid of being killed.
http://www.pbs.org/kued/nosafeplace/articles/nightmare.html (via alullaby)
That sums it up
This reminds me of a discussion we had in school, and one girl was talking about living in fear of her safety because she is a girl, and this guy chimed in and was all “It’s hard for guys too! I’m so awkward around girls! It’s embarrassing!” Yeah, not the same thing, exactly?
This reminds me of an article about online (heterosexual) dating that I read a while ago. It listed men’s and women’s worst fears about meeting someone from online. The highest ranked fear that men had was that their date would be fat, whereas the highest ranked fear that women had was that their date would turn out to be violent and kill them.
I think that says a lot.
You may not agree with a woman, but to criticize her appearance — as opposed to her ideas or actions — isn’t doing anyone any favors, least of all you. Insulting a woman’s looks when they have nothing to do with the issue at hand implies a lack of comprehension on your part, an inability to engage in high-level thinking. You may think she’s ugly, but everyone else thinks you’re an idiot.